Feelings Love

Love is a pretty powerful drug. When you feel it, you really feel it. It can suspend time, making the whole world seem still except for you two.

It feeds you more than any nourishment; you feel full in the presence of love.

But there’s a vast difference between love and true love. True love knows no depth. It’s an endless tunnel that sweeps you up in the whirlwind and you’re never quite free from it. It stays with you. And you hope this person will too.

True love isn’t ordinary. It doesn’t come around often and that’s how you’ll know it’s genuine.

….Or, you know, you could read this list and find out for yourself. Here are the 21 signs you are truly in love with your partner:

1. You see something and instead of thinking how happy it makes you, you think about how happy it would make them.

2. You feel more at home with them than you’ve ever felt in your entire life. Even when you were 7 and had all the stuffed animals in the world.

3. You find yourself singing Macy Gray at various times throughout the day.

4. You can get all-out mad or depressed or happy or whatever it is that you are in front of them. And you know it won’t change how they feel about you.

5. Patience: It doesn’t matter how long it takes for them to understand something, you enjoy spending the time teaching or learning from them.

6. You have the option to wear your go-to outfit, but still take an extra five minutes to get ready.

7. You live for their quirks. You love that they take up the entire dance floor when they break a move. You love that you can’t share meals because they hate chicken. You love that they will discuss celebrities like they’re your real friends. You’d much rather have them be weird than anyone else.

8. You still go over to their place no matter how late at night it is and how tired you feel. It’s always worth it.

9. You don’t desire other people. Yes, you might find some of them attractive, but no part of you wants them.

10. Their happiness means more than your own.

11. You willingly give in to the things you normally don’t compromise on.

12. You never grow tired of their company. It’s always just better when they are there. Even if you two don’t fill the silence, you’re content simply knowing they are present.

13. You have moments of insecurity but their reassurance makes you realize it doesn’t matter. Only when they say things will be fine do you genuinely believe it.

14. You associate certain scents with them. Cut grass reminds you of the time after your morning run. Football leather brings you to autumn evenings spent playing catch in the leaves. And don’t get us started on the smell of their pillow….

15. You dream of all the ways you can take care of them more than you dream of all the ways you want them to take care of you.

16. You never don’t want to listen to them – even when they sing Motown absolutely terribly in the shower.

17. When you do fight — it’s part of loving someone — you truly don’t want to be mad at them. You don’t talk badly about them after it’s resolved either because you know their actions came from a good place.

18. As if it’s even possible, you find them to be even cuter when they are sleeping. (I promise this isn’t creepy…)

19. They can come at you with anything — news, secrets, maybe even a baseball bat — and you won’t judge or hate them for it.

20. You wake up happy if only because you get to see them that day.

21. Neither of you think about Channing Tatum during sex.

“since feeling is first
who pays any attention
to the syntax of things
will never wholly kiss you;

wholly to be a fool
while Spring is in the world

my blood approves,
and kisses are a far better fate
than wisdom
lady i swear by all flowers. Don't cry
--the best gesture of my brain is less than
your eyelids' flutter which says

we are for eachother: then
laugh, leaning back in my arms
for life's not a paragraph

And death i think is no parenthesis”

“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment...'dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love -- which is to transform us.' Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.” 

“She’s kept her love for him as alive as the summer they first met. In order to do this, she’s turned life away. Sometimes she subsists for days on water and air. Being the only known complex life-form to do this, she should have a species named after her. Once Uncle Julian told me how the sculptor and painter Alberto Giacometti said that sometimes just to paint a head you have to give up the whole figure. To paint a leaf, you have to sacrifice the whole landscape. It might seem like you’re limiting yourself at first, but after a while you realize that having a quarter-of-an-inch of something you have a better chance of holding on to a certain feeling of the universe than if you pretended to be doing the whole sky.

My mother did not choose a leaf or a head. She chose my father. And to hold on to a certain feeling, she sacrificed the world.”